what's the difference between a "straight (male/female)"
wedding and a "gay (male/male or female/female)"
wedding/commitment ceremony ?
Well other than
the lack of opposite sex as the partner - not much...; well OK a lot
of little things like:
No Mr and Mrs -
the couple may not want to be called anything or may want to be
called something like "Miss(Ms)/Mr ...;...; and Miss(Ms)/Mr
...;.." or by their first names.
- You may have 2
brides or 2 grooms or 1 female in bridal outfit and one in tux or
both in tuxes or both dressed in absolutely anything...;. No dress
- You may have
flower boys and girls (including those who are adults), your
"Bestman" may be a woman and your "matron of
honor" maybe a man.
- You probably
won't have a ceremony at a church (although Metropolitan Community
Churches and a few others allow it). The Ceremony maybe in the same
place as where the reception is.
- There is
likely to be a Celebrant not a Minister or Priest.
- The guests
include family & friends who may be gay, straight, bisexual,
transsexual with ages from children to grandparents.
So are you feeling
like "what am I going to do"? Here are Skippy's guidelines
for being a DJ at a Gay Wedding/Commitment Ceremony and or reception.
Ask them the same
questions as you would ask any other couple who you are assisting in
planning a wedding, such as what speeches, introductions, wedding
cake, wedding dances, garter toss, banquet tossing etc. that are
planned. Be sure to ask what they would like to hear for their
"Wedding Dance". It could be anything from Shania Twain's
"From This Moment" or even "Tennessee Waltz" by
Ann Murray to some Techno/Dance number like "Believe" by
Cher...; remember no standard rules apply.
Tip for follow-up
songs - any slow number usually sung by a female artist that has no
gender specific details for girls, and gay guys also normally prefer
All music will
The mix of the
guests such as, all gays or a mixture of straight and gays.
- Age variations
- Personally, I
find that boys like house/techno of 130 bpm and up, whereas girls
like a mix from 118 bpm to house/techno. Girls tend to like dance
versions of songs played on the radio such as Shania Twain's "If
You're Not In It For Love".
- Gay anthem
songs here included "I Am What I Am" - Gloria Gaynor,
"Pride" - Johnna, "Free Gay & Happy" - Coming
Out Crew, "I'm Coming Out" - Diana Ross (Dance version),
"Chain Reaction" - Diana Ross (girls here love it always),
"Believe" - Cher (current fav)
- All dance
mixes such as "Together Again" - Janet Jackson, Artists
such as "Sash!", "DJ PeeWee Ferris", Whitney
Houston, Ultra Nate, Club54 soundtrack, Sarah Mclaughin (girls), KD
Lang (girls), Kylie Minogue, Diana King, DJ Dado, Hannah Jones,
Alison Limerick, Bronski Beat, Jimmy Sommerville, Diana Ross (Dance versions)..
Standards include Nutbush City Limits (extended Mix), Macrena, Bus
Stop and even Boot Scooting Boogie...;
My best advice
would be to ask them what they want. Remember above all else,
regardless of sex, those two people are prepared to stand up in front
of all their friends and family and say "I love this woman/man
and want to spend the rest of my life with her/him". And of
course they want it to go as wonderfully as anyone else on their
Also you get a
bonus - two brides... so both should look radiant or two grooms who
look handsome or even one bride and one groom just the same sex. You
may find however, that they both may wear tux's or gowns.
Lesbians have a
color, its Purple (Don't know why myself) and Gay boys have pink.
Remember above all
else...; it maybe a "Wedding/Commitment Ceremony" but to
most couples - its also a HUGE party to celebrate with friends and families.
Out there in the
big wide world - they say that 1 in 10 people are gay, so that means
that its possible that for every 20 "straight weddings"
there maybe one gay one.
Cheers DJ Skippy